Thus far in our study of FemDom Semiotics we have laid down a comprehensive foundation for understanding the inner and outer mechanisms of the sexual sign-systems that are operational when a man (in some cases, another woman) enters the presence of the Woman of Power. Further, we have defined this Woman of Power as being always of radically dominant temperament, both sexually and otherwise, and in her most successful and effective manifestations or incarnations to also possess the characteristics of superior size and strength. In other words, the consummate Female Dominant is a Fat Girl, a Big Beautiful Woman with attitude. (Note: In making this statement, I mean in no way to be demeaning toward dominant women possessing leaner physical attributes or toward the men who worship them. I would hope that my mere presence among the advocates of alternative sexual practice is sufficient proof of my attitude of absolute openness and acceptance of any and all sexual preferences. The point is simply that power begets power and that big girls bring that extra dimension of physical intimidation into the equation in a most forceful way. For this reason, they provide me with the greater inspiration. For those who worship the thinner goddess, you have found your heaven on earth and I applaud you with unbridled enthusiasm. In such instances, however, all the semiotic facts regarding the phenomenon of Female Domination still apply.)
We have also demonstrated that the very existence of this dynamic is no fluke, that it does in fact proceed from an integral interior structure within the human mind and as a consequence, reappears consistently along the historical timeline in both mythological and historical instances. It also appears as an especially prevalent theme in the popular culture of our time. The clearly essential nature of this evidence from an evolutionary perspective provides an extremely compelling case for the absolute primacy of the FemDom paradigm as the natural human sexual dynamic, with the Fat Girl being its most perfect emissary.
If the case were not already sufficiently substantiated, there is still one last area of inquiry without which we can in no way claim to have exhausted our subject matter. That is the realm of the Psychological. While we have analyzed in great detail the semiotics of the individual FemDom encounter, and provided in-depth insights from the mythological and historical records, the final proofs for the existence of the FemDom structural imperative are ultimately to be discovered within the mind itself. Let us proceed, then, with some preliminary thoughts as to methodology.
Since the advent of psychiatry, methodology in the realm of the psychological has, for the most part, taken the form of asking questions regarding one’s thoughts and impulses and engaging in an unusually stubborn attempt to answer these questions as honestly as possible without regard for the actions of the Super-Ego, the internal censor that seeks to modify the outward manifestations of our deepest pure libidinal activity in accordance with socially acceptable norms. A second method is that of observing behavior and attempting to trace it back to the thoughts and impulses considered in the first method. Ultimately, the goal is that of unveiling the hidden interior psychic processes that give rise to desires for engaging in certain types of behavior and, of course, to the concrete behavioral acts themselves. Accordingly, our obvious psychically-targeted questions with regard to the phenomenon of Female Domination are as follows:
Q. Why do we desire abuse and punishment at the hands of Woman?
Q. Why do we desire annihilation at the hands of Woman?
It is important to remind ourselves here that the goal of our inquiry is the discovery and analysis of sign-systems. In the realm of the psychological we are often dealing exclusively with interior phenomena, that is, thoughts and impulses as the objects of inquiry and further thoughts and impulses that arise in response to questions regarding the former. In the realm of pure thought it is sometimes difficult to determine which thoughts or processes represent signifiers and which represent the signified, for here we begin dealing to some degree with representations of the actual signs themselves. Realizing further that the signs themselves are often representations of deeper phenomena, our inquiry begins to lead us deep into the substrata of consciousness into the realm of the pure unconscious. This, of course, is precisely where we want to be as it is the domain of the very intrinsic structures of mind that are the objects of our quest. The key in working on this level is simply to keep in mind that the concrete Woman of Power, be she real or imaginary, remains at all times the source and embodiment of the original signification. All lines of inquiry, whether external or interior, lead back to her as the origin and foundation of our transcendental quest.
With this in mind, let’s look carefully at these questions one at a time. Our first question inquires as to the reasons we are desirous of receiving abuse and punishment. It further stipulates that this abuse and punishment would be delivered and administered by Woman. There are no parameters given as to who the woman might be. She could be anyone. She could come from anywhere. What is provided is a suggestion of her exalted status. Whoever she is, she is of importance, a woman of influence, hence the capitalization of the noun that refers to her. Of course, her importance and influence need not extend to any group or even any individual. To the enlightened supplicant, this is simply a way of identifying her as a woman who is fully aware of her authority over men.
Being certain, at the very least, that she looks down upon us from her pedestal, we consider the question again. ‘Why do we desire abuse and punishment at the hands of Exalted Woman?’ Things have already become clearer. Is it not far more likely that one who is superior to us might find ample reasons to exact some sort of disciplinary action upon us? And for the same reason, might we not be far less resistant to such action than might otherwise be the case? It follows, then, that our respect for Female authority admits of, at the very least, a sense of acquiescence to the idea of punishment at the hands of that authority. And from acceptance, we move one step closer to desire.
Understanding that a Woman of Power has authority over us and knowing with absolute certainty that we must comply in every way with that authority certainly explains our ascent to a position of complete acquiescence with regard to any and all directives or actions initiated on her part. We may easily understand the appearance within ourselves of great joy in carrying out her every command and suggestion as well, regardless of the difficulty and demands they may place upon us. But at some point, regardless of how perfect our obedience, we must fall victim to corporeal punishment, and if the woman is truly of goddess stature, that punishment is going to be severe indeed. It will cause excruciating pain at the very least, and result in far more severe short-term or long-term damage if she takes her commission seriously. As loyal subjects, it is not within our province to avoid or refuse such punishment. It is our absolute duty to endure it, and to endure it as bravely and cheerfully as possible for the sake of our beloved. It is here that the key point of inquiry arises. Having followed the logic of our analysis through, and understanding the complexity of our calling quite clearly, we take the ACCEPTANCE of punishment as a matter of course. It cannot, as we have said, be avoided. But considering the severity of Woman’s outpouring of wrath upon us, the question at the heart of the matter has nothing to do with why we accept her abuse and punishment, but rather ‘Why do we DESIRE abuse and punishment at the hands of Woman?’
From a psychological perspective, the answer is threefold:
- We desire it because it brings us closer to her. Enduring corporeal punishment at her hands allows us to be more closely attuned to her will for our lives and this gives us a tremendous sense of inner fulfillment and joy. The possibility of this higher level of closeness to her gives rise to desire.
- Considering the fact that for the Woman of Power the easiest course of action towards us as males would be to ignore us completely, the fact that we are counted worthy of the time and energy she spends inflicting pain and suffering upon us is something for which we are infinitely grateful. The possibility of ascent to this level of worthiness gives rise to desire.
- Because she is a beautiful woman and because the process of corporeal punishment involves extended contact with her exquisite flesh, sexual arousal is inevitable. Within the context of such already joyous transcendental circumstances, this arousal is indescribably powerful. The possibility of undergoing this transcendental experience gives rise to desire.
An attitude of unconditional worship is revealed in all three of these answers. The nature and quality of this worship is absolutely transcendental. In worshiping the Woman of Power Male enters into a wholly mystical state of being. The punishment he receives at the hands of Woman is merely another tool or technique that facilitates his entrance into that state. It is not unlike any other transcendental technique for ‘breaking the spell’ of mundane reality, it is simply more radical, therefore more effective, and therefore more direct. It is a shortcut to ecstasy, one might say. Knowing, then, that Woman’s infliction of physical punishment upon him will transport him in the most immediate and radical fashion into the realm of ultimate spiritual bliss, is it any wonder that he should desire that punishment and in fact desire it above and beyond any and all other forms of experience? In a word, Male’s desire for abuse and punishment at the hands of Woman is nothing other than his desire to commune with God.
Psychologically, then, we see that desire for punishment=desire for spiritual transcendence of mundane reality. Being accompanied by sexual excitation, this desire is all the more powerful. In terms of semiotics, the Woman of Power becomes signifier for the ‘God Experience.’ We may then be logically justified in postulating a corresponding unconscious structure through which the presence of God may be known through the presence of the Woman of Power. Seen in this light, the phenomenon of FemDom becomes a structural imperative within the minds of men.
Now that we have gained some perspective on the problem of the desire for abuse and punishment, we must turn our attention to the second of our questions, which attempts to come to grips with the greatest mystery of them all, namely, the desire for annihilation at the hands of Woman. While this question is indeed closely connected to the problem of punishment, it also represents a radical step into a wholly separate dimension of FemDom psychology. In asking the question ‘Why do we desire annihilation at the hands of Woman?’ we are affirming the fact that our psychic interface with the Woman of Power does not always end at the level of abuse and punishment. There exists an even deeper level of such interface , and that is the level of annihilation.
While the concept of annihilation can be understood simply as abuse and punishment taken to the extreme, its most important characteristics are those that separate it entirely from that category. Philosophically and theologically the concept of annihilation is vast in scope and subject to a great deal of misinterpretation. The most common misconception regarding the idea of annihilation is that it is synonymous with literal death, absolute obliteration, or the reduction of an existing entity to a condition of nothingness. Of course annihilation can certainly be defined in these terms and often is. But this type of literal definition by no means exhausts the wealth of meaning inherent in the concept. As it relates to the realm of Female Domination, the concept of annihilation certainly contains the idea of death as central to its proper explication. But this does not presuppose the notion of literal physical death. As any student of the Tarot knows, the Death card most often indicates some form of powerful transformation. It is the card signifying radical change far more often than it signifies a literal death. In the realm of FemDom a similar interpretation comes into play.
We have understood something of Male’s desire to be abused and punished at the hands of Woman, and while the idea of coveting such radical pain may strike us as unnatural at first sight, in following the argument through to its conclusion we see that it is actually an entirely rational desire given the context in which it is situated. But our ultimate question, ‘Why do we desire ANNIHILATION at the hands of Woman?’ finds us looking not into the face of pain and even disfigurement, but directly into The Abyss. We have no alternative but to understand this question as pertaining to the desire for death at the hands of Woman. How, then, in what possible context, is this desire to be understood as rational? There is only one possibility and it admits of a certain amount of complexity which we will endeavor to unravel, at least to some extent. That answer is the appearance of the death-wish in Male in conjunction with the presence of the Woman of Power.
What is the connection, then, between the manifestation of the death wish and the presence of the Woman of Power? It all has to do with Male’s self-image vis-à-vis the indescribable, and indeed unfathomable existence of Woman. Faced with the inscrutable mystery of her miraculous presence, it becomes his longing to bring himself into absolute compliance with the will-to-destroy that is integral to her being at its most fundamental transcendental level. This theory alone possesses the depth to explain every aspect of the femdom dynamic and experience; the power fetish, the superiority, the woman’s aggression, the man’s passivity, and the sexual obsession with the large, the powerful, and the beautiful. But the death wish is far more than any mere desire for cessation or nothingness. Male already experiences himself as non-entity in Woman’s presence. No, the motivation for the death-wish is precisely the OPPOSITE of this! It is the desire to be subsumed by Woman, to be absorbed by her, to become her even as the raindrop falls and becomes the mighty ocean. This is the concept of perfect redemption through which the male (non-entity) attains to a manifestation, an incarnation of authentic existence. Through the transcendental process of FemDom he transcends the realm of nothingness to become and to experience authentic existence, which is to say, human life in all its multi-dimensional fullness.
This death wish is at the heart of all sexual and religious impulse. It is the possibility of transcending the state of nothingness that drives the will-to-ritual. Ritual, properly so-called, has only to do with Sex and Religion. (Ironically, the two areas of the human experience most generally considered to be mutually exclusive!)
Seen in this light, the phenomenon of FemDom reveals itself as a manifestation of the highest religious impulse within the male psyche. In the desire for death at Woman’s hands male reveals his infinite love for her in the fullness of its purity. He delights in her display of omnipotence toward him, realizing in the material realm the deepest most profound longing of his spiritual nature. Religion, Worship, the impulse-toward-Ritual; these things do not fall into the realm of learned behavior. Yes, we are taught religious technique and philosophy, but the inner ascent-to-transcendence is intrinsic to the human mind. It is a structural imperative. And for the human male, the Woman of Power is the dominant figure who stands at the heart and eternal center of that structure, ready to deliver the most extreme forms of punishment and torture imaginable, leading ultimately to the death of male in every facet of his being. And this so that he may be born again into newness of life in HER image.